Memorial Hall Library

Transgender and Nonbinary Memoirs

If you're interested in learning more about how to support transgender and nonbinary youth, make sure to sign up for our panel discussion featuring educator and author Christy Whittlesey! It will be held on Zoom on Wednesday, 6/8 at 7pm. In addition to checking out Whittlesey's latest book, It's Okay To Say They: tips for educator allies of transgender and nonbinary students, here are some memoirs written by transgender and nonbinary people about their own experiences.

This Time for Me
This Time for Me
by Alexandra Billings

Spanning five decades, from profound lows to exhilarating highs, an award-winning actor, singer, and history-making LGBTQ and HIV/AIDS activist shares not only her ever-evolving story but also the parallel ways in which queer identity has dramatically changed since the Stonewall riots of 1969.
I have always been me : a memoir
I have always been me : a memoir
by Precious Brady-Davis

A trans activist reflects on her difficult childhood in the foster system and how she was able to realize her true identity to become an award-winning diversity advocate, communications professional and public speaker.
Uncomfortable labels : my life as a gay autistic trans woman
Uncomfortable labels : my life as a gay autistic trans woman
by Laura Kate Dale

In this candid memoir, Laura Kate Dale recounts what life is like growing up as a gay trans woman on the autism spectrum. From struggling with sensory processing and learning social cues and feminine presentation, through to coming out as trans during an autistic meltdown, Laura draws on her personal experiences from life prior to transition and diagnosis, through to the years of self-discovery, to give a unique insight into the nuances of sexuality, gender, and autism, and how they intersect.
This body I wore : a memoir
This body I wore : a memoir
by Diana Goetsch

A memoir of one woman's long journey to late transition, in an era before real community or appropriate language was available to help her understand herself.
Super late bloomer : my early days in transition
Super late bloomer : my early days in transition
by Julia Kaye

A collection of the webcomic Up and Out depicts the author's early days of transitioning from a man to a woman, showing the ups and downs of the process.
Gender queer : a memoir
Gender queer : a memoir
by Maia Kobabe

In 2014, Maia Kobabe, who uses e/em/eir pronouns, thought that a comic of reading statistics would be the last autobiographical comic e would ever write. At the time, it was the only thing e felt comfortable with strangers knowing about em. Now, Gender Queer is here. Maia's intensely cathartic autobiography charts eir journey of self-identity, which includes the mortification and confusion of adolescent crushes, grappling with how to come out to family and society, bonding with friends over erotic gay fanfiction, and facing the trauma and fundamental violation of pap smears. Started as a way to explain to eir family what it means to be nonbinary and asexual, Gender Queer is more than a personal story: it is a useful and touching guide on gender identity--what it means and how to think about it--for advocates, friends, and humans everywhere.
Please miss : a heartbreaking work of staggering penis
Please miss : a heartbreaking work of staggering penis
by Grace E. Lavery

Follows the author, a reformed druggie, an unreformed omnisexual chaos Muppet and 100%, all-natural, synthetic female hormone monster, as she, once she solved her “penis problem,” embarks on many misadventures as she journeys towards a new trans identity.
The natural mother of the child : a memoir of nonbinary parenthood
The natural mother of the child : a memoir of nonbinary parenthood
by Krys Malcolm Belc

Essentially this book is a heavily visual memoir-in-essays that explores how the experience of gestational parenthood-conceiving, birthing, and breastfeeding my son Samson-eventually clarified my gender identity and allowed me to project a different more masculine self. Ruminating on how the experiences contained under the umbrella of "motherhood" don't fully describe my experience amplifies the outsiderness the speaker, who is almost always addressing a cis "you," sometimes his mother, sometimes strangers, mostly his cis female partner. Instead of using a straight narrative, the book circles around this concept of motherhood and of my relationship to it. The book is also an archive of my queerness, of childhood photos of me smiling impossibly wide, of my original birth certificate and the legal documents surrounding Samson's adoption. It's a direct engagement with the documentation we think constitutes a record of one's life. The book ends on an exploration of how much we can really know when we enter into parenting a person, and of my ambivalence about the "before" and "after" that is so prevalent in trans stories and that feels so outside my experience as a nonbinary transmasculine person.
Continuum
Continuum
by Chella Man

Offers advice and insight into cultivating self-acceptance and supporting inclusivity through the experiences of Chella Man, a deaf, transgender, and Jewish artist, activist, and actor.
Tomorrow will be different : love, loss, and the fight for trans equality
Tomorrow will be different : love, loss, and the fight for trans equality
by Sarah McBride

The national press secretary for the Human Rights Campaign presents a timely memoir about her struggles with gender identity and relationships against a backdrop of the transgender equality movement.
Surpassing certainty : what my twenties taught me
Surpassing certainty : what my twenties taught me
by Janet Mock

The transgender activist and best-selling author of Redefining Realness presents a memoir of her search for purpose, love and self-realization in an early adulthood marked by her education at the University of Hawaii, a defining relationship and her entry into journalism.
Nonbinary : a memoir
Nonbinary : a memoir
by Genesis P-Orridge

Perfect for fans of industrial music, performance art, gender bending, the occult and punk rock, this revealing memoir takes readers on a journey through creativity and destruction, pleasure and pain as it follows the life of a pioneering industrial music and visual artist. 
Fairest : a memoir
Fairest : a memoir
by Meredith Talusan

The award-winning journalist and activist presents a coming-of-age memoir that describes her experiences as a Filipino boy with albinism, a white immigrant Harvard student, a transgender woman and an artist whose work reflects illusions in race, disability and gender.
Becoming Eve : my journey from ultra-Orthodox rabbi to transgender woman
Becoming Eve : my journey from ultra-Orthodox rabbi to transgender woman
by Abby Stein

A former member of Brooklyn’s founding Hasidic Jewish family traces the remarkable story of how she transitioned from a non-English speaking rabbinic leader to a woman and outspoken advocate for gender freedom.
Sissy : a coming-of-gender story
Sissy : a coming-of-gender story
by Jacob Tobia

A gender-diverse cultural influencer on both the Forbes "30 Under 30" and "OUT 100" lists examines how religious, political and educational experiences revealed the need for greater cultural inclusion and anti-discrimination legislation that acknowledges the gender spectrum.